Should I Shouldn’t I Go To The Funeral?

By: David Tindall
Wednesday, December 9, 2015

If you’re not sure if you should or shouldn’t attend someone’s funeral you might want to stop and think about what it was like when they were alive. Did you spend time together? What was it like when you spent time together? Did you genuinely love and care about them?

 You Only Have One Chance 

Death happens quickly, so you might want to talk to someone that you really trust about how you felt, when you found out about this person’s passing. Commonplace tools such as lists and journals are also great ways to process your emotions. If all you can think about when you think about the deceased is the meaningful moments you shared together, it’s important that you do your best to be there. If the only emotion you feel is either indifference or pity, you can easily opt out, without any regrets.

Supporting Loved Ones

If you barely knew the deceased and you want to be there for your grieving loved one that’s okay too. If you’re an acquaintance of the deceased make sure to do kind things such as comforting people who are visibly sad about the loss of their loved one, and helping people prepare snacks and beverages.

Grieving Together

As you stop and think for a while about whether or not you should or shouldn’t go to someone’s funeral, ask yourself the following: what made you interested in attending? If your only motivation is what someone else thinks, don’t go. If the deceased’s passing upsets you, you’ll most likely take comfort in being amongst people that cared about this person as much as you did. If you find yourself questioning whether or not you should be there you might also want to consider whether or not your presence will be a warmly welcomed addition to the funeral.

Funerals are typically a somber affair, therefore a lot depends on your comfort level. If you’d rather grieve in your own way, or you barely knew the deceased, and don’t feel right about going then don’t go. The way that people behave while dealing with the death of someone that they know consistently varies, based on extenuating circumstances, their prior relationship with the deceased, their upbringing, etc. No matter what anyone says or thinks you should only attend a funeral if you feel as if being there, is extremely important for both you, and your loved ones.

If you’re not sure if you should or shouldn’t attend someone’s funeral you might want to stop and think about what it was like when they were alive. Did you spend time together? What was it like when you spent time together? Did you genuinely love and care about them?

 

You Only Have One Chance

 

Death happens quickly, so you might want to talk to someone that you really trust about how you felt, when you found out about this person’s passing. Commonplace tools such as lists and journals are also great ways to process your emotions. If all you can think about when you think about the deceased is the meaningful moments you shared together, it’s important that you do your best to be there. If the only emotion you feel is either indifference or pity, you can easily opt out, without any regrets.

 

Supporting Loved Ones

 

If you barely knew the deceased and you want to be there for your grieving loved one that’s okay too. If you’re an acquaintance of the deceased make sure to do kind things such as comforting people who are visibly sad about the loss of their loved one, and helping people prepare snacks and beverages.

 

Grieving Together

 

As you stop and think for a while about whether or not you should or shouldn’t go to someone’s funeral, ask yourself the following: what made you interested in attending? If your only motivation is what someone else thinks, don’t go. If the deceased’s passing upsets you, you’ll most likely take comfort in being amongst people that cared about this person as much as you did. If you find yourself questioning whether or not you should be there you might also want to consider whether or not your presence will be a warmly welcomed addition to the funeral.

 

Funerals are typically a somber affair, therefore a lot depends on your comfort level. If you’d rather grieve in your own way, or you barely knew the deceased, and don’t feel right about going then don’t go. The way that people behave while dealing with the death of someone that they know consistently varies, based on extenuating circumstances, their prior relationship with the deceased, their upbringing, etc. No matter what anyone says or thinks you should only attend a funeral if you feel as if being there, is extremely important for both you, and your loved ones.

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